So, how do we approach dating? Maybe you have been single for way too long or you just broke up from a long-term relationship and want to get back into the market. The first thing you should do is some soul searching. You could also seek the help of a dating coach. You must approach dating from an inside-out perspective. Before you can go out and search for a partner, you need to know yourself and your preferences. What do you want in a partner? What is most important to you? If you don’t know what you want, you probably will wind up with what you don’t want. A dating coach will be able to help you find the answers. As a dating coach, I recommend some examples of what to look for in a potential partner as: intelligence, high self-esteem, open-minded, and sexual. Perhaps you want someone who follows the same faith as you. Do you like dancers? All these things factor into where you should go to meet people. For example, if you are looking for a Hispanic partner, you may consider joining a salsa class. If you like intelligent women, you probably shouldn’t go to bars and clubs to meet them. Not to say that you won’t find them there, but you are more likely to find party animals at bars and clubs. If you approach dating by not looking for anything serious and are just looking to have flings, then the bars and clubs are a great choice for you. Once you know what you are looking for, you need to be happy as a single person. It is impossible to attract a happy person in your life if you are not happy. Many people approach dating by finding a significant other to fill a void in their life. This is a surefire way to attract needy, depressed, or abusive partners. Having a dating coach will prevent you from ending up with people that aren’t right for you. Finding happiness takes time. It may require therapy, or dating coaching, but most of the time, you can be happy being single by staying busy doing things you love to do. If you spend all your time at home in front of the TV eating ice cream, you’ll get depressed. However, if you approach dating by meeting new people, hanging out with friends, and engaging in activities that you love doing, you won’t obsess over not having a significant other. Not only that, but you will likely meet a potential partner who enjoys doing the same things you do. If you’d like to learn more about how to approach dating, hire me as your dating coach.
Your Matchmaker and Dating Coach,
Dan Silverman
